5 stages of losing to Duke…

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I love Tar Heel Basketball. I love the roar of the Dean Dome after a dunk, I love the sea of blue unable to look away from the court and I love the way a game brings together the student body. For all of the love I have for Carolina Basketball, I equally hate Duke Basketball. I hate the way they flop, I hate the Plumlee brothers and boy do I hate Mike Krzyzewski. When I didn’t get a ticket to this week’s legendary match-up, I was devastated. I was determined to get into the Dean Dome, so on Tuesday I sat in the Turn-it-back line from 8:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m. and I couldn’t fathom it when I was handed a ticket. My friend and I (bless her for dealing with my insanity and sitting with me all day) bought new UNC jerseys and were prepared for the best night of our lives. To say that the last 5 minutes of last nights game were disappointing would be an understatement. When the buzzer went off, I started an emotional roller coaster I wasn’t prepared for. Here are the five emotional stages I went through after losing to Duke:

Shock:

What had just happened? We were ahead all game. I was confused. I found myself standing completely still – hands on my head and mouth agape. Had I been closer to the court, I would have been the perfect person for ESPN to zoom in on and for Duke students to quickly turn into a meme.

Temper-tantrum:

This shock quickly turned to anger, like 2 year old temper-tantrum anger. I had sat in the middle of the quad in a line for nine hours for that?? I kicked a chair, threw down a water bottle and pretty much made a fool of myself.

Silence

Leaving the Dean Dome I didn’t want to talk about it, actually I didn’t really want to talk to anyone. I walked ahead of my friends and tried to process my various emotions. They knew I was emotionally unstable and left me alone. Did they think I was crazy? Probably, but it’s UNC vs. Duke so a little crazy is acceptable.

Denial

About half way through the walk home I went into denial. If I talked about other things, did the game not really happen? This seemed like the best idea for the time.

Acceptance

When I woke up this morning, I figured it was time for me to shake off the anger and move on. And in that mindset, it’s not hard to find the positives. Brice Johnson had 29 points and 19 rebounds. Until the last five minutes the game was an absolute blast to watch. And most of all, we have Duke in their territory on March 5, and I think the team will come out angry and ready to play.

They say, “to hate like this is to be happy forever,” and when I woke up a Tar Heel that rang true. The sky is still Carolina blue and I didn’t wake up on a campus in Durham, so I would say its a pretty good day to be a Tar Heel!

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Celebrate we will…

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During the first week of class this semester my professor passed around worksheets with questions aimed to get to know students. Between filling out my hometown, major and a random fact about myself, one question stuck out to me – “What’s your favorite quote?” I immediately wrote down “Celebrate we will, because life is short but sweet for certain,” which are lyrics from the Dave Matthews Band song “Two Step.” I’m not someone who knows their favorite quote and has it posted all over my wall, so it took me by surprise when I put this quote down without any hesitation. I realized the reason this quote came so easily to me is because I appreciate the message behind it. This easy choice got me  thinking about how other people my age would react to this same question – so I asked them. I asked 5 of my friends to give me their favorite quote, quickly and without too much intensive thought. Here is what they said:

  1. “Life is too short to wake up with regrets, so love the people who treat you right and forget about those who don’t. Believe everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance – take it, if it changes your life – let it. Nobody said life would be easy, they just said it would most likely be worth it.” –Unknown
  2. “You are braver than you think and stronger than you believe” – A.A.Milne (Winnie the Pooh)
  3. “The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away.” -Pablo Picasso
  4. “Whit beyond measure is man’s greatest treasure.” – Harry Potter
  5. “The happiest people don’t have the best of everything, they just make the best of everything.” – Unknown

To me, these all had a similar theme – to enjoy life and not sweat the small things. Well, this theme fit all of them except the Harry Potter quote, but that friend just can’t help how much of a Harry Potter fan she is. We’re all in our twenties and these quotes seem to look to the future and the things that lie ahead. As juniors in college, were all looking forward to what we have to come. I’m curious if people of other generations would focus on the same kind of thing when asked the same question. For now, I’m just happy to be looking towards the future.

Advice from Mom

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Yesterday was my Mom’s 53rd Birthday. If you know me, you know that I am incredibly close with my mom, it’s weird for us not to talk on the phone multiple times a day and I tell her pretty much everything. We never really had that awful stage that most middle school aged kids go through where their parents are the worst people to be around – and that says a lot about her, because around 7th grade I had to be hard to spend over an hour with. For the past 24 years she has been an amazing mother to my brother and I and has taught us both so much. She’s the mom that all my friends want to hang out with – sometimes I think they might like her more than me, (no seriously, on her birthday one of them felt comfortable telling her to “turn up.”) She’s the number one person I go to for advice and after 21 years of keeping her wise words to myself I thought I would celebrate her birthday by asking her to share her top 5 pieces of advice – one for every decade. After being a little overwhelmed by the request she sent me a lengthy email with her advice, here they are summarized:

1. Try Not to Worry

Coming from the biggest worrier I know, this was a little ironic. But she realizes her weaknesses and sees that she has passed this trait down to me, so I think she is trying to correct it before it gets too bad. We’re both the type of people who assume the worse when someone is 5 minutes late and if I don’t call my mom back within 2 minutes of a missed call I’m pretty sure she thinks I’m dead. She described worrying as a “horrible time-sucker that serves no purpose whatsoever.” I guess this is something that we can work to fix together, and for those who don’t have this trait, do your best not to become a worrier.

2. Learn to Laugh at Yourself

My family’s primary dinner conversation consists of jokes about each other. My mom calls it “lovingly pointing out each others flaws.” We’re pretty ruthless and for years that was hard for me to deal with. But I have found that I have a lot tougher skin than some of my friends because of it. I guess that’s one benefit of having an older brother and about 5 of his friends who thought of me as a little sister. My mom said that being able to laugh at yourself can be a positive tool in social and professional situations, and I’m sure I will come to realize this even more as I get older.

3. Not everyone is an early riser – and that’s OK.

This one might be my favorite piece of advice. I’m an avid proponent of sleeping in and so is my mother. According to her, “Disregard all of the ‘self-help’ books and ‘25 things successful people do’ lists because they all say to get up early – it won’t work for you” I wont ever be a 5 am riser and neither will my mom, and now we can just accept that fact instead of losing precious hours of sleep trying to change it.

4. Value your family

I think my mom’s reasoning is a lot more valuable than my commentary for this one, so here is what she said: “You just won’t find anyone else, ever, anywhere, in all time, that will have your back and support you the way your family will. Who else would love you unconditionally, be proud of even your minor accomplishments and spend 4 days in Disney World with you while you cried uncontrollably for literally the entire time we were there – passing you off from family member to family member, as you had to be carried while you screamed bloody murder anytime there were lights, noise, characters or horses, but especially horses.” If I had a dollar every time I’ve heard about that Disney World trip…

5. Rise Above It All

Through all of the middle school cat fights and drama my mom taught me the valuable lesson of rising above it all. She’s always told me to ignore the drama and leave friends that bring you down behind, and as I grow up I realize this is precious advice. “Rise above it all and always conduct yourself in a manner that shows kindness, self-respect and humility. Be that person.”

I hope that you learned something through this post, and if none of this was new advice than I hope that you at least got a laugh out of the Disney story. Thanks for being the best, Mom. And happy birthday!

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Congrats #UNC20

UNC released admissions decisions for early applicants on Thursday, which quickly took me back to the day that I was admitted. (Was it really three years ago?) Seeing all of the tweets, Facebook posts, and instagram photos from admitted students brought me right back to the excitement of opening my decision letter. But most of all, it made me excited for this new class.

This is a class that for yet another year broke admissions records. It’s a class, that like all of the classes before it, will find inspiration on campus, will be challenged by classes and will find themselves through the ups and downs that college brings. This is another class that will change Chapel Hill for the better and will work to improve the world far outside of the boundaries of this town. This class will (hopefully) get to experience the joy of rushing Franklin Street after beating that school down the road, will discover the beauty of the quad on a spring day and will fall in love with the song “Carolina In my Mind” by James Taylor. This class will find their family in the friends they make at Carolina and by the end of their first semester will catch themselves calling Chapel Hill ‘home.’

The admissions of the class of 2020 marks another group of people who will get the privilege of experiencing the magic of Chapel Hill, and to me, that is pretty exciting! Welcome to the family #UNC20! Can’t wait to see you around campus!

#AerieREAL

I’m a social-media junkie. Like most of my millennial peers, I check Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and Snapchat repeatedly throughout the day. I used to just use Snapchat to see what other people were doing, but recently I have become a huge fan of the discovery channels. I watch the Cosmopolitan and Buzzfeed channels almost everyday (there is something that makes it seem urgent when you know it will be gone in 24 hours – I will have to cover that in another blog post) and explore other channels when I have free time.

Today on the Cosmo channel, they covered a story about the #AerieReal campaign. The story mostly highlighted model Barbie Ferreira, who is a size 12 and was recently added to the campaign. The whole idea behind the #AerieREAL campaign is that in all of their content the models are completely unretouched. The photos show things like stretch marks and birthmarks, and don’t photoshop or trim any part of the body. In the new ad, Ferreira wears a pink strappy bikini and talks about how “the world needs more woman who are strong.” You can see the video here.

Having been a frequent shopper of American Eagle, I have followed Aerie for a few years. This #AerieREAL campaign has really shaped their brand and the way that the company operates, which has been interesting to look at from a PR student’s perspective. The campaign doesn’t end in the advertisements, all of the photos on the website, including those that show the lingerie and clothing being sold, are unedited and the company’s social media is littered with request for fans to tell why they are #AerieREAL. With one of the company’s many competitors being Victoria’s Secret, they are definitely separating themselves and moving in a different direction. In an industry where the standard is showing perfect girls with perfect bodies, Aerie is taking a chance that I admire. According to this adweek.com story written in 2014, the company’s sales increased by 9% when they stopped retouching photos. With a target market of females mostly below the age of 25, Aerie is making huge strides in body positivity. Ferreira is one of their largest sized models to date, but for some time the brand has provided an online sizing guide that featured photos of women of all sizes in the companies products, to give users an idea of how it would fit them. With the tagline “the real you is sexy,” the campaign is inspiring girls all around the country to be comfortable with their bodies. With a message that important, Aerie is definitely a company that I will continue to support!

Read a similar story to the one found on snapchat here and let me know what you think of the campaign in the comments!

 

Snow Days in Chapel Hill

The University of North Carolina’s campus is beautiful everyday, but it’s even prettier under a white layer of snow. With snow and ice starting early Friday morning and continuing in random showers throughout Saturday, the campus was covered in a blanket of snow all weekend. After spending a little too much time lounging around watching movies, my roommates and I decided we needed to venture out. While it was cold and windy, the campus was absolutely beautiful and provided us with some great picture opportunities. Hopefully this won’t be the last snow of 2016!

A litte bit about me…

I sleep too late, I shop too much and I eat too many sweets. I make too many sarcastic comments, laugh too easily in awkward situations and love my two dogs a little too much. Oh, and I struggle to write about me’s…

I go to the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, and I absolutely love the place. When I chant the fight song line “I’m a tar heel born, I’m a tar heel bred…,” I’m not lying, far from it really. Both of my parents went to UNC, and so did my aunt, and so did my uncle, oh, and so did my brother. It’s pretty much in my blood and I wouldn’t have it any other way. I grew up at Carolina sporting events and when we weren’t at the game, the whole family was watching. But more than that, I grew up with stories about how much my parents appreciated their time at UNC, and I think thats what made me really fall in love with it. So when I recieved my acceptance in high school, I was more than excited to leave my beach town for Chapel Hill. While time away has made me appreciate the little island I call home, there is nothing like a good day in Chapel Hill. Now, I’m in my junior year here. That means I’m over half way done and I cant really wrap my head around that.

I’m double majoring in Public Relations and Interpersonal and Organizational Communication, with a minor in Entrepreneurship. I am starting this blog as part of my class “Branding of Me” and will update it at least two times a week throughout the semester. My post will cover the life of a public relations students, some days I will write about my daily life as a student and some I will talk about issues and campaigns in the public relations field.

When I’m not in classes, I spend my time working with my sorority and organizations around campus.  I am eternally grateful for the wonderful friends I have, both at home and in Chapel Hill. They make life fun and never fail to cheer me up on bad days. I’m super close with my mom and see myself getting more and more like her everyday, and my Dad has shown me what hard work can accomplish. I hope my studies land me some lavish job in a big city, but I would be pretty content in North Carolina as well. I’m pretty much your typical 20 year old girl, but I hope reading though this blog will give you a better idea of an “about me.”10690001_1012648882082648_6690044041661435605_n